Are You Selfish or Selfless?

by D. Stephenson Bond, L.M.H.C.

Your husband is working overtime, you have a major deadline tomorrow morning, and the kids are in bed with the flu. Sound familiar?

Conflicts like this are an inevitable part of family life, and decisions must be made about whose needs come first, which means that someone's needs come last.

Perhaps that 'someone' is you.

How do you make choices about your role in your family's healthcare, and where do your needs fit in?

It all depends on your decision-making style and whether you value yourself as much as you care for your family.

This quiz will explore your decision-making style as it relates to caregiving and healthcare. Each question presents you with a typical family situation and offers you a choice of responses. Of course, there are no right or wrong answers. Don't base your answers on what you think you ought to do or what wish you could do.

Once you've taken the quiz, click on "Calculate Results" to learn more about your decision-making habits and how you can balance all the difficult choices you face every day.

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  1. Situation: You come home from work just a little behind schedule. Hubby and kids are waiting for dinner. Do you typically:
    • Change clothes, freshen up, or unwind a little
    • Feel unsure about your priorities
    • Jump right in on dinner
  1. Situation: The family has priorities conflicting with your own about what to watch on TV tonight. Do you typically:
    • Watch what they want to watch
    • Watch what you want anyway, even in another room
    • It would depend on how strongly I feel

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